22/02/2017

Having Control Over Your Emotions

It is without doubt that we show our real self/character when we get very angry, do you agree with me on that? I guess you do.

Emotions which is a strong feeling of either joy or anger, the anger part of it is where my i will focus on in this write-up.

Anger is a state of mind caused by strong displeasure. I will say that it is absolutely natural and normal to get angry cause that is just the way we were created. But my worry is sometimes some people do some crazy and unimaginable things when they get angry which they regret later on when they are sober and most time we found out that the particular reason why we lost our cool and probably made some utterances or did some unimaginable things all in the name of anger was not just worth it, trust me.

I know that some people can really really be annoying but even at that taking action almost immediately can never make things better cause no decision taken in anger can ever be helpful. Finding it difficult controlling your anger? After reading the control measures below you will find it easier from today.

                      How To Control Your Anger 

Take a deep breath: Our breath tend to rush when we are angry which is not a good thing. Just take a moment and take a deep breath cause speedy breath can only increase your anger.

Do not talk: keeping quiet is key in this situation cause talking in the heat of the moment can only worsen the situation, I know it is quite difficult to hold back without expressing yourself verbally but that will not solve the problem so keep still.

Think less about it: Do not think of what was said or done to you that made you lose your cool, as a popular saying says "situations are either good or bad but thinking makes it so" (my favourite quote actually)

Take a glass of cold water: It sounds funny but it is very effective because it can help cool and stabilize your body temperature thereby restoring a degree of calmness in your body and mind.

Take a walk: Taking a long walk can help reduce the stress and tension, restore calm and also make avoid saying or doing things that you will regret later.

Dialogue: One funny thing about anger is that it varnishes under little time especially when the damage has already been done. After taking that long walk, sit down with the person you had misunderstanding or problem with and have a talk with the person, stating what and what the person did that you do not like and he/she will in turn speak his/her mind about your differences and trust me this time around you both will be in the right state of mind to settle your differences amicably.

So you see anger is no big deal but we make it one. If you can apply those control measures whenever you get angry, there will not be any cause for alarm.

Quote of reference: "Situations are either good or bad but thinking makes it so"



30 comments:

  1. This was a great article. Learning to control our emotions is critical to our own self-growth!

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    1. Yes it is jay. Thanks for stopping by..

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  2. great post it is very important to control your emotions, I know that all to well.

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  3. There were great tips to help your emotions back in check when you feel like your out of control

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    1. Yes they are Stephenie, thanks for stopping by.

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  4. This is such a great idea. I never though taking a glass of cold water might help. I should try it next time.

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  5. This is a great article and very important topic.
    Always like your posts Gideon.
    Keep it up.

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  6. Amazing post. Self control is something which you can grow day by day.

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    1. That is true Dailydosesofbeauty, we grow each day.

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  7. 100% this - love it, believe in it - and I agree wholeheartedly.

    http://sweetcleanliving.com

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  8. Excellent article. Thanks for sharing.

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  9. Great article, thanks for sharing.

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    1. Am so happy you could relate to it and thanks for the feedback.

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  10. Thank you for your article! Definitely can relate

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  11. Great ideas. Being silent and walk away is the best way to control the emotions. Nice read.

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    1. Silent can be very effective at times like this.

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  12. I also find meditation and visualization are great tools for helping to overcome blocks and obstacles and manage emotions/stress.

    Tracy @ Ascending Butterfly
    http://www.ascendingbutterfly.com

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    1. You have a point there Tracy, thanks for contributing.

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  13. This post is useful! I'm easy to lose my temper especially in a discussion and even get angrier when talking to people at that moment. Maybe I have to calm myself down first and be quiet for a while.

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    1. You really need to work on that Hannah.

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  14. Words to live by. I have PTSD, and emotional dysregulation is a symptom so I really struggle with this. Rage rage rage all day.

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    1. Hmmmm!! That's a tough one my dear but you just need to try your very best and also pray for God's intervention. It can only get better Elizabeth.

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